so i tried the recording process again, this time giving up the whole record our band from 2 mics in the band. Instead we went for an sm58 on the kick, sm58 on the snare and the 2 behringer directly over the drums (keep in mind these are just demos...we'll go to a real studio when we're going to do this)
WOW. They sound awesome. I tried to back off the gain a bit.....this time I ran them through the mixer with the other mics and rolled off a lot of lows and it seemed to help. Anyway thanks everyone....if anyone wants to hear it i'll up an mp3.