chessrock said:
So in other words, you believe that threatening strangers several thousand miles away with physical violence ... is somehow
a good and producting thing for this forum ? ?
You need to calm down. You're taking all of this stuff way too seriously. Chill.
No, not at all. But that's what Blue Bear has been doing for some time now. Maybe not violence, as you are defining it, but intimidation nonetheless. No one can say the exact number of new people he has scared away, there are no statistics. I believe it's significant.
But who can say they enjoy his abuse even if they do keep coming back? Only people like Bruce who, regardless of their original intent, are using this forum to vent emotionally. I personally don't need it. I have a real punching bag in my garage - I highly recommend it.
Even I wouldn't be here if I wasn't more stubborn and tenacious than 10 of you put together, still wanting this to be what I had originally imagined - a place for learning and discussing recording and Music.
There is all the room in the world for strong unmovable opinions as far as I'm concerned. But there is no room for backstabbing and vandalism of a person's reputation. What you, Bruce or whoever is trying to do is maintain a world where you are always right. You attempt that not through reason and sound argument, but through sanctions and punishment via insults or misusing the rep feature.
To use a cliché, you can dish it out, but….
Your problem right now is you have crossed paths with someone who can dish it right back, will always call your bluff, will escalate way beyond your comfort zone (and follow through) and can speak bully fluently if need be to communicate in a language you can understand.
Speaking of that - it's funny, someone called me psycho once before, but only once that I recall. It was in the 8th grade when I jumped on three rather big and mean classmates by myself who were picking on a new kid from England. His father was in the military and got shipped back to the states with his British wife and kids who had grown up in England. They were, pushing him, making fun of the way he talked and he was crying like a baby asking them please to leave him alone. I couldn't stand it, and ended up hitting all three of them hard - knock down drag out lips bleeding -- total mayhem. They reacted just like Bear, "Hey man, what the hell is your deal?" Like I started it. That's how bullies are though. They don't feel anyone's pain but their own.
I still don't like bullies, even if they are scrawny pencil-necked cyber-bullies that would just make me feel sick to my stomach with pity at the thought of actually hitting them.
Anyway, I don't stay angry indefinitely - I've slept since yesterday. However, we simply have a problem here that needs to be resolved. I sincerely think meeting people in the flesh can solve things that text messages never will. I will never sneak up on you so don't worry about that.
I will announce my Presence with pride, "HELLO! MY NAME IS INIGO MONTOYA! YOU KILLED MY FATHER! PREPARE TO DIE!" Yeah, kinda like that. I'd say there would be plenty of time for a person of average stature to run and call the police. (but they'ed be on my side).
It should be obvious you're in no real pesonal danger at this point. I've articulated openly here what an ass hole I think Bruce is. I could have just sneaked up on him and left him negative rep and not said anything, like he has done to me, and not just recently.
I could setup a few bogus accounts and pad my "rep points" like many do. Ironically, my dwindling rep numbers show more honor and reputation, because I won't do that on principle.
I could take the Blue Bear Sound website down (I'm a computer programmer/consultant by day). I could rip his face off (a student of the martial arts since my youth and Shotokan Karate instructor since 1982).
See, there are a lot of things I could do. Yet, all I've done is tell you what I think and express my intentions to talk to you in person (whether you like it or not) because at this point I believe I know what's best for the situation. Come on man! People used to talk in person all the time before the Internet. What's the big deal? In fact one of dearest friends, well we just hated each other at first. He was one of those creepy Tae Kwon Do wackos that I was just sure cheated at tournament, but he turned out to be ok. So you never know.
So when the smoke clears what I'm really saying is, "I feel like ripping your face off so I think we should talk." Not many males in our culture are able to express themselves so well. I think I deserve a little credit for that.
By the way, the reason I'm smiling is I'm not left handed.