Tad, I know exactly what you mean. The band I played in last year consisted of a singer/songwriter with a degree in music who's released loads of albums (some very successfully) a drummer who had a music degree, a well known session local session bassist, a keyboard/backing singer who also had a fucking music degree, a guitar teacher and two backing singers one of which was a singing teacher... (those three were also a wedding band and harmony trio) needless to say plebby old me who learned how to play guitar from the In Utero and Black Album tab books felt a bit self concious!
We played a few smaller gigs but for the main gig the audience was all her muso mates and industry people! LOL, I felt like someone was gonna ask me what phrygian dominant 7th was to catch me out at any moment!
Yeah, that sounds familiar! Guitar is a weird instrument like that...so many of us guitar players started playing because it's such a popular instrument and is so widely visible in pop music of the last 50 years. So we start playing because we saw our idols doing it. And we hack away and learn the hard way through hours and hours of trial and error. Unlike the concert violinist who has trained in a very structured and formal format for years, studied music and music theory, and plays by very rigid rules. Funny thing is, I'd usually rather listen to the guitarist hack that's playing from his gut than the prissy violinist that's reading it off the page.
Lol. I'm the total opposite of all that. I guess it's the corny extrovert in me, but I shy away from nothing. No musical situation intimidates me. I'm OFTEN the worst drummer or guitar player in the room, and you know what? I couldn't fucking care less. I go up there balls on fire and let it fly like I own the fucking place....because really, I do. I do own the place. And every fucker in there. I own all of it. Regular people in the crowd don't care about the technical wizard that stares at the fretboard as he flings notes all over the place. They remember the crazy guy that plays like it's his last gig on earth and he's actually having fun.
I'd say that part of that is because of something in your personality, who you are. But I'd also say that a big part of it is because you never stopped, you're well-practiced both at your instrument(s) and at the act of gigging. Going through the motions, loading in, setting up, playing to a crowd, loading out, all that. I'm so far removed from it now that I'd be a wreck by the time I even showed up with my gear. I'm sure that a few gigs into it, I'd start to loosen up and enjoy it. But as it is now, I'm not in gigging shape due to too many years of not doing it.
This is how I discovered recording dude....I just wanted to play my guitar to some backing tracks after about 7 years or so of not even owning a guitar, or picking one up, one thing led to another & here I am...
I'd love to play in a band again, but the place I live in makes it almost impossible...This region just doesn't have very many musicians who would be dedicated enough to try to keep a band together either, so I guess I'll just keep doing the recording thing...
Yeah it seems that you're out in the boonies

Small towns are tough for jamming just due to the statistics. What are the chances that there is somebody in your area that plays bass or drums or sings that is into the same music, has the same interest in playing shows, etc? Probably pretty slim chances when there are only a few thousand people around.
But that's been the beauty of recording for me. It gives me an outlet for this passion/hobby of mine. I get to do something constructive with it, instead of sitting around being bitter or disappointed about what I could have done with it. And while my bassist and drummer may suck, at least we're on the same page when it comes to our artistic direction
