Jack Russell said:
I hear ya, man. I've been working on the vocals of one tune for about a month. I've rehearsed it with a guitar, as well as with a rhythm track. I thought I had it nailed the other night. Then I played the mix for my wife*. She gave it a thumbs down. In my case, it doesn't seem to be a pitch problem, but something else.
I've taken voice lessons, and I've been practicing with Roger Love's vocal training CD. So, I do think my pitch has improved, as well as my breathing, but still...maybe I just don't have the pipes. It is like an ugly person trying to look good.
I do think having someone else act as a producer can help, but if you are really too bad then why waste someone's time?
I have worked with other "real" vocalists in the past. The results have been on pitch, and technically well performed, but
DULLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL.

and BORING

and even PLAIN
So, the struggle goes on........

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*I forgot: as bas as I am, My wife, astoundingly, thinks I sing better than the lead singer of Radiohead. What am I supposed to think?
A couple of things come to mind.....
I love my wife and on some things she is my biggest fan and supporter, but she has hated several songs I've written and in some cases I just put them away, intending to never play them out live. Eventually I did play them and guess what? They get some of the best audience reactions of anything I play. So, keep on lovin' your wife, but get a 2nd opinion about the quality of your voice on those tracks!!
Give it some distance. I went back and listened to the tracks that I thought were so bad after staying away from it a few days and there are a couple of spots I could punch in or autotune, but they are way better than I thought they were at the time. I think maybe you are as self-critical as I am. Tell your internal critic/editor to take a hike.
Get some objective yardsticks to measure by. I browsed iTunes today, looking for artists and songs that have the kind of production that I want my project to sound like, Guy Clark, Steve Goodman, Union Station, The Greencards, Nanci Griffith, John Prine, Townes VanZandt, Gillian Welch. I realized that not all of those songs are as strong as their best and I realized that some of those voices are pretty quirky, but instantly recognizeable on the radio. As long as you are singing with conviction, emotion, urgency, from the heart, it doesn't matter if you are a "REAL" singer.
I am going to try this one and I'll let you know how it works. I am going to set up Pro Tools to loop record one take after another and just stack the takes up like pancakes. I am going to try to just let go and experiment, some takes I'll concentrate on pitch, on others I'm just going to let go and shoot for the emotion of it.
Finally, my wife says that nothing sounds as good as me just singing the song alone in the kitchen. I am going to give live to 2 track recording a try, maybe even get a small group of folks in to listen.
I know the number one thing I am doing wrong is that I am turning this into something stressful instead of doing it for the sheer joy of it. I think it is because I now have gear that in theory could produce professional grade quality and so I want it to be perfect. Back when it was me and a 4 track cassette, I didn't get caught up in the perfectionism so much. I knew it was going to sound like a demo, so I just had fun.
One last thing - I have been in bands where the sum of the parts blew away what each one of us was capable of individually. Of course, it is like being married to 3 or 4 other people and their egos and right about the time the Promo Pack and Demo Tape gets done, it always seems to break up. In spite of that, I think I am ready to jump back in if I can find some likeminded songwriters looking for a harmony singing bass player.
bilco