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Maybe off subject...

But maybe not...

So I'm finally back into the loop of jamming, or trying to get there. I'm back with a drummer with whom I've played, and last night we tried out a bass player (or so we thought). It's a guy who was in the last band my current drummer was in, they just broke up. I'm feeling pretty good about it, despite my being somewhat out of practice. We start playing, messing around with originals mostly, and soon I'm getting a feeling, a vibe, whatever, that this guy (the bassist) is TOTALLY uninterested, unimpressed, and biding his time to get the hell out of there. My suspicions were confirmed by vague parting remarks and the drummers impression of the bassists actions/attitude.

To get to the point of this rant, it seems it takes soooo long to build myself up and feel like I'm worth a crap at guitar, and then WHAM! In the blink of an eye, I'm torn down and feeling like a beginner... :(

I know that this is an unproductive and unhealthy mindset, but I can't seem to avoid this damned rut into which I have fallen more than once before....

Anybody have similar experiences and/or hangups?
 
Yeah, it's no big deal man, I wouldn't take it to hard. I get lots of crap from people because I can't pull great, epic, hair-metal solos like them, but who cares? It's about enjoying the music. Sometimes you're bound to run into people you don't "click" with when playing. I wouldn't get too dismayed though, 90% of the people I play with aren't into my style and don't groove well with me, or I don't groove with them, or whatever. Just keep loving the music and enjoying yourself and you'll be fine.
 
Good riddance! He probably doesn't like the same music as you and probably doesn't like the same kind of guitar style as you. He might be a nice bloke but if he doesn't see things the same way as you it will never work. I've been in a band for ages with a guitarist that likes metal. We spent most of our jamming time telling him to "stop fucking soloing" and to "start playing the damn guitar properly". The band has finally ground to a halt and I've moved on to another project which actually plays my kind of music.

You want to find someone who gets off on the same vibe as you. Stick a notice up in the local music store and put some influences on it. Just have a jam and a beer with a few people. Eventually you'll find someone who thinks the same way and will complement your playing.
 
We all have good days and bad days. I'm sort of in the same boat as you. I haven't really been playing much over the past 10 years and am finally putting some hardocre practicing in. I feel that things are coming along nicely and am looking forward to a few jam sessions in the near future (and I have to admit that I'm pretty nervous about starting all over again and worried about my performance).

But just remember one thing. If I've only learned one thing in all my years of playing is to do it for yourself. Play your style the best you can and enjoy.

I'll let you all in on a little secret... I'm not very good at all but I love the hell out of playing my guitar! That's what makes if fun.
 
Thanks for the replies. It's good to know others share this to some degree. It's kind of strange where the roads of time take you. I think I'm still in some kind of environment shock because in the past I've jammed with people who were already familiar to me, and I to them. That "history" became as much a part of me as it was of the bands I was with. Start subtracting the "familiars" and in essence you've subtracted from yourself, or at least how you may be perceived by some.

I think too much! :confused:

We're trying out a guitar player tonight. The drummer played a tape he submitted and the guy sounds to have a similar playing style as I do, though the song was from a band that is not one of my favorites.

Thanks again, and with me luck! :o
 
cellardweller said:
Maybe off subject...

But maybe not...

So I'm finally back into the loop of jamming, or trying to get there. I'm back with a drummer with whom I've played, and last night we tried out a bass player (or so we thought). It's a guy who was in the last band my current drummer was in, they just broke up. I'm feeling pretty good about it, despite my being somewhat out of practice. We start playing, messing around with originals mostly, and soon I'm getting a feeling, a vibe, whatever, that this guy (the bassist) is TOTALLY uninterested, unimpressed, and biding his time to get the hell out of there. My suspicions were confirmed by vague parting remarks and the drummers impression of the bassists actions/attitude.

To get to the point of this rant, it seems it takes soooo long to build myself up and feel like I'm worth a crap at guitar, and then WHAM! In the blink of an eye, I'm torn down and feeling like a beginner... :(

I know that this is an unproductive and unhealthy mindset, but I can't seem to avoid this damned rut into which I have fallen more than once before....

Anybody have similar experiences and/or hangups?
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Are we talking about jammin' or dating? :eek:
 
Music's funny isn't it - you have to be sensitive, artistic....AND thick skinned. So what if the bass player didn't like your stuff - you just keep going until you find one who does. Anyway, if he didn't have the faculties to tell you what he thought, and just slunk off...well, it's so what with knobs on :)
 
Been there.............. once had a guitarist come by......... he was an awesome player but he couldn't work with others. We'd start on parts and he'd just go tooling off in some totally other direction....... it was our fault he could play with us.... the four of us where playing our stuff incorrectly....ha.... what a loser.... damn egos :D
Don't pay it much attention things happen for a reason.....
Chris
 
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