Help with wife

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I personally would have told her that the mics were designed to work as a pair and the music store only sells them in pairs. Just like when I bought my first adat I had to have a second adat for the first one to work then I had to buy the brc so the whole system would work then I had to buy a masterlink for the brc to work, etc. Hey, if your spouse doesn't really understand the whole technology thing then you have the odds in your favor. Plus, buy a dozen roses for good luck, and add honey if you let me buy the mics I will certainly spend much more time at home in my studio then out with the buddies!!!!!!!! Works every time. Good Luck!!!
 
I'm gonna side with blue bear on this one...I feel kinda alone in this arena. Bragging a bit...I have a kick ass home studio, and she has a kick ass graphics setup....complete with a Mac and a PC and all the peripherals. She HAS TO do all the graphics on my audio stuff ('cause I kinda don't know how anywazz), and it gives us a common goal...except she only makes *suggestions* on the mixes...nothing more! If ya hide mic purchases from her..she would only hide Ebay purchases from me. My advice...if the music aint cuttin' it...get a friggen side job to where everyone can buy all the toys they want.
 
Ok, instead of "butt out bitch...", try this:

-"Butt out bitch, kiss my ass, and go to hell" works for me, but it might not work for everyone. Here's another idea...

Try playing to her 'female' side. When the mics arrived, when she looked surprised, you should have said:

"Honey, this may look expensive, and maybe it is, but IT WAS ON SALE! Think of how much money we SAVED, by me buying 2 in quantity, right here, right now. YOU JUST DON'T SEE A SALE LIKE THIS EVERY DAY!!"

...In other words, use the excuse on her that she uses on you, when she goes to the mall, haha.
 
ODD DAMN IT! THIS THREAD HAS BLOWN UP. BUT JUST GOT INCREDIBLY STRANGE BLESSINGS ON PURCHASING A PAIR OF 603S SO THEIR ON THE WAY. MAYBE A LARGE DIAPHRAM MIC WOULD REALLY MAKE THINGS EASIER!! ISN'T SO FAR AWAY.
 
You learned your lesson I hope. Microphones are easy to hide, she should never have been allowed to know you bought them. In the future, tell her you borrowed them from one of your buddies, and eventually, just tell her your buddy told you to keep them. The point is this, never admit you bought anything, even if she finds the receipt. No matter what, just lie like hell. I have a studio full of stuff, at least $20,000 worth, and I haven't admitted to buying anything yet. She finally just quit asking. And to all you single guys out there, take my advice.........stay that way.!
 
I think the secret might lie in "faking her out." Let me explain.

Recall that I ordered two microphones but was able to still keep ONE. Sooooo ....

Step 1. Imagine how many microphones you'd like to order.

Step 2. Order twice as many as that.

Step 3. Fight like hell when the mics arrive, pretending that you want to keep all of them

Step 4. Pretend to compromise by agreeing to return half of the mics.

Step 5. Laugh inside knowing that you got what you really wanted in the first place yet end up looking like a caring "reasonable" guy! :D
 
And, if she then throw the attitude...

"Well, you spent $300 on YOURself, then I'm gonna go spend $300 on MYself!"...

STOP that COLD! I can't emphasize that enough!

Buy your damn mics, any mic you choose. Don't worry, be happy.

Justify it in your own logic, believe it, explain it to her, and keep both your mics. It doesn't matter what you say, anyway, she won't understand, or agree with your logic.

-Try to appease her 'feminine' side, and spin it in feminine logic, by referring to it as a SALE ITEM.
 
I say this thread goes in the "future reference hall of fame" with Sonusmans Mixing thread, Harveys Mic thread and my needles and thread. This could easily be the most important topic for some people to overcome in this hobby. Ya know?

Editing in...
Man I just took my idea off this thread, it was pretty honery, and belonged in the cave. I apologize if you saw it, but it WAS pretty funny.... :)
 
Actually - I think the trick is to get her more involved from the beginning. Gather data and present them to her, let it take some time - get her used to the idea. The trick is to make it an option between some purchases - not a purchase or not. "Should I buy this one or that one..."

Normally my 'wife' (not married - but we have two kids and have lived together for >twenty years) pushes me towards the more expensive choice. She's likes quality and sees no point in making me swap things all the time.

The only time I did have problems convincing her was way back when i wanted to by a multifx, I made that one into a contest. "Allright, I make three songs that you think has a potential to get airtime, and I get my box?" - She fell for it, and then I went back making my own stuff again. We are way passed that now...

Never ever push the lady into a guilttrip over her buying habits, that will make every purchase inte a combat on both sides.

By the way - I'm a new kid on the block. Strictly a hobbymusician, but I've been a homerecorder for something like 25 years. Still don't know how to get it right. Been lurking here off and on for a while and couldn't keep my mouth (fingers?) shut anymore.
 
Then, lets all welcome Beltrom!

The newest Newbie on the block!

I guess the mindless chatter on this board got the best of him! He couldn't resisit, he HAD to join in!

Welcome, Beltrom!

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The OLDEST home recording NEWBIE alive!

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Re: Then, lets all welcome Beltrom!

A Reel Person said:
The newest Newbie on the block!

I guess the mindless chatter on this board got the best of him! He couldn't resisit, he HAD to join in!

Welcome, Beltrom!

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The OLDEST home recording NEWBIE alive!

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I guess your theory is that the lack of meaningful discussions created a vacuum, and vacuum sucks? Yeah, well, I guess that's about it.

Nah, just kidding - I've learnt a lot from this BBS already. There's a lot of knowledgeable(sp) people around. It's the only WWW-board I check in on with any regularity.

Thanks for your welcome Reel Person!
 
just keep buggin her about how much you need and want it. after a month she'll let you buy anything just to shut you up. Believe it works!
 
SUCESSSSSSSSS!!!!!

It's official. She cracked this afternoon. I begged. I pleaded. I begged. I pleaded some more. And it worked! The second mic will NOT be going back to Bayview. It WILL take its rightful place in my mic locker.

But I have to promise to make a couple of CDs of kids music so she can start up a little neighbourhood music and story club for the kids in our neighbourhood. That ain't such a bad compromise, is it?

Thanks guys. We did it! :D
 
LMAO! That is a very good compromise Kelly, and listen to the guys who gave the advice about not lieing and hiding stuff. Shame on you A Reel Person!! And Wallycleaver, dead nab it, you hit too close to home. :D

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microphone dildo?

Would be ideal if the toy could serve two functions....his and hers...

Actually, I work it out on a schedule, usually overstating the costs so when the time comes, it looks like I did a good thing by saving money. I also try to time it with a gift or something for her...I've been married ten years and I'm whipped. The clincher is my children....I record them every now and then....to demonstrate how the toys are actually good for quality time. Sort of maligned...but effective.
 
I guess He'll have to resort to your idea next time he buys gear.
 
:D :D :D

I just tell my wife I used the money she has been saving me when buying all her clothes and jewlery.

Works everytime for me.

BIG-D
 
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