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【法律问题】
一年前，经人介绍我与李某建立了恋爱关系。为了表示对我的爱慕之情，李某主动按家乡风俗送给我8800元“见面礼”。不久，我们办理了结婚登记手续。谁料入洞房之后，竟发现他是一个性无能。第二天我就陪他去了省城的医院，诊断结果是“先天发育不全”，医好的可能性微乎其微。我的心像是被掏空了一样，不知道下一步该怎么办。丈夫倒是想清楚了，不久前主动向法院提起诉讼，要求与我离婚，并要求我返还那8800元彩礼，理由是他不能落个“人财两空”。我当然同意离婚，但我不同意返还彩礼，因为我毕竟跟他结过了婚，虽然共同生活不足十天，但离婚并非我所愿，我是无辜的。再者说，李某家境殷实，有没有这笔钱不会对其生活构成影响。我的想法对吗？（李小群）
【专家建议】
李小群朋友：
“彩礼”一般是男女青年在恋爱过程中，一方（主要是男方）送给另一方（主要是女方）的一定价值的财物和现金。有的恋人在收受了彩礼后仍会与对方分手，于是便产生了彩礼返还与否的纠纷。
那么，给付彩礼的一方在什么情况下可以要求对方返还彩礼呢？根据《婚姻法》司法解释（二）的规定，有以下三种情况的，可以要求对方返还彩礼：
一是双方未办理结婚登记手续的；
二是双方办理结婚登记手续但确未共同生活的；
三是婚前给付并导致给付人生活困难的。
据此分析，你与李某办理了结婚登记手续，所以，可以排除第一种情形。李某家境不错，给付 8800元彩礼不至于让其生活困难，自然也不属于前述第三种情形。你是在与李某结婚共同生活了十天之后才分手的，虽然时间短暂，但毕竟也不属于《婚姻法》司法解释（二）中规定的：“双方办理结婚登记手续但确未共同生活的”情形之列。既然这三种情形都与你无关，那么，你丈夫要求退还彩礼当然也就于法无据了，因此他的请求不会得到法院支持的。（作 答/本刊法律帮助小组 审 读/最高人民法院国家法官学院 金俊银）[查看更多法律咨询问题] (本文来源：网易女人 )
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【Legal Issues】
A year ago, perhaps through a middleman, I established a romantic relationship with Lee. In order to express my feelings of love, Lee gave me the initiative by 8800 yuan custom home, "Mommy." Soon, we handled a marriage registration. Shuiliao into the bridal chamber, after they discovered that he was a sexually impotent. The next day I would take him to the provincial capital of the hospital, the diagnosis was "congenital hypoplasia," a good doctor is unlikely. My heart is like a hollowed out of the same as I do not know what to do next. 'd Like to clear her husband's recent initiative to the courts and asked to divorce me and asked me to return the bride price was 8800 yuan on the grounds that he could not fall a "both life and wealth." I certainly agree with a divorce, but I do not agree with the return of bride price, because I told him, after all, mistakes I have got married, though living together less than 10 days, but divorce is not what I want, I am innocent. Moreover, said Lee family was well off, and there is no money does not impact on their lives. I was thinking, right? (Li Qun)
【Experts suggest that】
Li Qun friends:
"Bride price" is generally young men and women in love, a party (mainly ex-husband) to give the other party (mainly the wife) of a certain value of property and cash. Some lovers received a bride price at will with each other after breaking up, so they had a bride price dispute whether or not to return.
So, pay bride price under what circumstances a party may request the return of bride price then? Under the "Marriage Law" judicial interpretation (b) shall have the following three cases, it may ask for the return of bride price:
First, the two sides did not apply for marriage registration procedures;
Second, the two sides for marriage registration, but do not live together;
The third is paid before marriage and led to payment of life difficult.
On that analysis, you and Lee apply for registration of marriage, therefore, can exclude the first case. Lee family was good, bride price paid 8800 yuan Bu Zhiyu let their problems in life, they naturally did not belong to the aforementioned third case. You are living together with Lee married 10 days after the break, though time was short, but after all, does not belong to "Marriage Law" judicial interpretation (b) provided: "Both sides for marriage registration, but do not live together "situation of the column. Since these three cases are nothing to do with you, then request a refund of bride price, of course your husband also have no legal basis, so his request will not be court support. (Answer / Articles Legal Assistance Group reading / Supreme National Judges College, Kim Jun-Silver) [see more legal advice to questions] (This article Source: Netease woman)
