If you want your drums to sound like Disturbed - Down With The Sickness, you've got to work at it. Here is what I do...
For high end stick attack, I usually push up a "very" narrow EQ peak at around 7,000 Hz. You may have to adjust this frequency based on which drum heads you use. I've been known to push this peak as high as +12dB, +15dB, or more to get it to cut through.
For low end fullness, I approach this different ways, depending on the style of music. I'll sometimes record toms with a kick drum mic to get huge low end from the source. (But be careful. You've got to experiment with several kick mics before going this route. Some kick mics sound good on toms and some sound horrible. They all have their own character.) An added benefit is that kick mics tend to roll-off the highs which helps filter out nearby cymbals.
Otherwise, I'll sometimes use a low-end (sub harmonic) enhancer plugin such as Crysonic's NewB V3. This can fatten the lows while still controlling volume. If I get too much low end
rumble between tom hits, I use a noise gate that can listen for selectable frequencies, such as digitalfishphones FLOORFISH. In the case of floor tom rumble, I find that a mini gobo placed between the kick and floor tom reduces energy bleed from the kick, the source of that rumble.
Jimmys69 makes a good point about the overhead mics causing some cancellation. Do some A/B switching or change volume levels to discover this.
EDIT: I wouldn't work in the low frequency range without having a sub and a well treated control room, or you will indeed end up with a mess.