Scriabin said:
I try every day and fall helplessly short. I procrastinated for 10 years and now she's moved three states away. I'm engaged to a new girl who's beautiful, fun, and a doctor...yet, my mind still drifts towards another. I don't know if its denial or false hope. Maybe I believe that somehow I can write a song that will miraclously find its way to her and have her run back to me. Has anyone out there had luck with with writing a song like that?
Peter Gabriel came pretty damn close with "In Your Eyes"
Women should come with warning labels...
you're ENGAGED and your still dreaming of someone else???? That doesn't sound very fair to Dr. YourCurrentGirlfriend. Did you ever stop to think what kind of effect it would have on your fiancee if she knew that your feelings for a 10 years ago ex were so strong that you were still thinking about ways to get her back? If I were in her shoes - hell I have been in her shoes and it was torture. I lost 10 pounds in two months -- (I'm already skinny) i really loved this guy, and all I could think of was "I'm not good enough. She was better than me, cleverer than me, more beautiful than me, more dynamic, more seductive, more enticing ... better better better and I will always be not good enough for him" I felt like this guy was never completely present when he was with me.
How could you go and get engaged, set out to make a promise for life with one woman, when you are always thinking about another? I just don't understand ....
you think women should come with warning labels? try dating men. nothings runs hot and cold like men. Today your the pinnacle of the world, 8 weeks later - chopped livah!!
serously, my friend, you should really think of the effect these kind of feelings can have on the person who loves you, and who is with you now.
ps - that much being said, I have a good girl freind who is doing the same thing with the two guys in her life, she complains about the one she's with, & when they start to work things out & get closer, suddenly she's writing a letter to her ex (5 years) that they should try one more time for real. I told her to sit on that one for a while.