No, we are NOT talking about two different things.
Audio production is about DOING! I am VERY MUCH self taught! Indeed, I could have shaved a bit off the learning time by sitting in countless sessions with a very experienced engineer, but I didn't. I put in the hours, totally willing to try ANYTHING!
It isn't like this guy is going to hurt anything using eq! What is he going to hurt? Audio files on his computer?

It isn't like he only has one shot at doing it right or it is forever fucked!
Anybody who becomes really good at this "art" is forever a "rookie". I learn new things all the time. The only thing experience has taught me is that if I fall back on "safe" things to do, I will not come up with anything interesting, and generally, I won't realize the full potential of my audio.
It is NOT "ameture" advice to tell a guy to "eq the fuck out of" something, if that is what is needed! Read my original post! I said to do what is NEEDED to improve the sound of the track. The fact is, many times extreme eq CAN be just want is needed, and CERTAINLY there is many times, even in big time productions where more than 2 or 3dB of cut/boost of eq is applied!
You learn nothing "playing it safe". You can play with words all you want about "training" and "experience", but the fact remains that MANY of the finest mixing engineers have little to now "training", but have a LOT of experience twidling with knobs in the studio!
If seems like the "pro's" on this site discourage people from experimenting! I find that amazing. Admit it! YOU got better from experimentation, and IF you are truely experienced, you KNOW for a fact that until a guy sits down at the console for obscene amounts of hours/days, you will never learn what will work in any given situation.
Let's also take into account PREFERENCE! I know guys that like to put eq before compression, and other guys that prefer to put compression before eq. Which one is right, and when? Neither is right, and neither way if effective for everything all the time. Thus, you have to EXPERIMENT. Now, what if Southside Goob tells me I HAVE to compress before I eq? What if I go about my business of producing audio ALWAYS compressing before I eq? Well, frankly, I will never experience the other side of that! I OFTEN eq before I compress.
One small example of how a "rule" sucks and will hold you back!
There are times when the distortion created by a extreme eq boost just does the trick! Yup, maybe doing something that extreme on say a tom track also boosts up the cymbal bleed. Oh god! I raised the noise floor according to Southside, so I shouldn't do it, even though it makes the tom sound great!
Myself, I will just throw a noisegate before the eq so that the cymbal bleed is lessened.
There are NO RULES for producing great audio. And there are NO RULES concerning how "experienced" you need to be to try stuff.
The fact remains that you cannot "teach" a person how they want something to sound to them. You can teach a person what something will do, but after than, their EXPERIENCE will tell them when something is right or wrong for what they are working on.
Drop the elitest talk about how "rookies" shouldn't break rules that don't even exist! It is insulting to suggest that a guy isn't "ready" to apply more than a few dB of cut/boost on an eq just because he lacks experience. That is one of the stupidest things I have ever heard! I would NEVER take advice from people that think this way, nor would I ever learn.
Like pipelineaudio suggested earlier, you have to know the "rules" first! With regards to eq, the first and only rule is: there are NO such rules!