Well, I know what you mean.
I've cycled thru a dozen amps in the last 2-3 years, and 3-4 dozen speakers before I got into the alnico stuff. I've settled on Weber Blue Dogs (12") and Blue Pups (10"), and both 12 and 10 inch Tone Tubbys, in birch cabs, open and closed back. I never did shell out the bigger bucks to try the Celestion alnico drivers. The ceramics all sound pretty much alike to me. If I were going with ceramics, I'd probably stick with Webers, TT's, and Eminence, and
the Jensen C12K and Blackbird has always been a closet favorite too.
I cant afford the truly boo-teek amps, but I am for the time being happy to fiddle with a Mesa Express 5.25.
I have a 40th anniv Std. MIA Strat, and the only experience I have with pickups is having hot noiseless put in to get rid of the excess hum. I have them set low to tame the high freq response.
And I have recently learned about the advantages of not running the guitar volume knob at 10 all the time. I do play with my finger quite often, especially for finer touch fast strumming. I've noticed a slightly worn and softened felt bass pick can give a nice smooth tone.
I have come close to getting your tone, but not until I put a
EHX Black Finger compressor in my chain. After I fiddled with the BF for a few hours, I promptly posted and sold all of my overdrive pedals. Since the BF is tube in and tube out, with high voltage in between, it does have a slight hum in it at high gain. So for clean stuff I use a BBE Opto stomp compressor, since it is virtually 99.9999999% noiseless. It doubles for bass tracks as well, works nicely for that.
I've been reluctant to experiment with pickups. Demo recordings are useless for estimating sound, and they are hard to repack and return once they are installed. It's a gamble I haven't been real enthused about taking, and I'm never sure how much difference it will make anyway. But I do know I DON'T like high gain, high freq, top end sizzle. I want it so sing, but I cant stand that buzzy distortion that is so easy to get these days.
Your tone is excellent. I'm going to experiment with renewed enthusiasm today, thanks to your recordings! Appreciate it!