Yeah, not to sound like a broken record (gotta love that double standard), but chess is right, hit up a good studio. Although his approach might of been too brute for my tastes.
A good studio would cost you some money, but I think your tastes might be far too advanced for your gear.
But if you really want to get the hard cold facts about "that sound", the truth of the matter is that there's alot more going into it than you think. Aside from the obvious, like the mics and processors you use to get the shit on a multi track, there's also the not so obvious things.
One big one, and others might disagree, is the power of analog tape. You pass a mix through a tape machine, or even better recording on one, and you would hear what I mean. It's that simple.
So rather than lead you down the path of eternal frustration, it's better to get real so that way you avoid the millions of hours of heartache and possibly still save your love of music.
But to leave things on a positive note, you can find tips here than can get you better results than what you might be getting now.