VOXVENDOR said:
Yeah, not many women know the components of drums, but there are some out there....
The ones I was working with, just called it a "ticking cymbal"... I sometimes felt that they were trying to show off/act as having a bit of knowledge, rather than actually addressing real concerns about the sound....

That's just too funny, "ticking cymbal ... " now I've have to start using it, and people will think I'm doing so b/c I don't know any better when really it's just b/c it makes me laugh.
I don't suppose that will help me get taken seriously though ...
Right now I'm just into recording myself and the bands I play in, so no weird client stories. BUT, upon thinking about it further I thought this story might be relevant:
The band members in one of the bands I'm currently in were quite reticent about letting me record our demo ... BUT, I let them hear stuff from 2 different CD's worth of solo material I'm doing (1 CD done except final mixing, the other is preproduction) that put them at ease somewhat ... I had to *sell* them on my services ...
If a client hears what you've done and elects to hire you, I think that says they have some confidence in your abilities to pull something together for them. Right now maybe the client is just not seeing the Big Picture. A conversation I had with my bandmates was, "OK, so the demo is sounding like A right now. I understand we want it to sound like B. I can GET it to sound like B. These are the steps in the process we'll be taking to get it there." Then I explained what to listen for during each step (where applicable), how that made it closer to what they wanted.
It didn't sound like I wanted it to because if certain limitations we had going into the project, but right at the beginningI told them which challenges we had that were likely to translate into shortcomings.
Everybody seems happy with the end result ... I hear where things could've been done better, but in a twist of fate one of the songs did get picked up for a commercial spot on a local mainstream radio station, so I'm guessing it's not all that bad ...
Sorry if I'm rambling. I hope some of this tale is helpful ...