Spouses/significant others who put up with our expensive/time-consuming hobby

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I want to thank my man

My husband is tone-deaf and can't dance. But he lets me commandeer one bedroom of our 3-bedroom house full-time. I track in there, play, store all my gear, etc. When recording, I also either monopolize the adjacent bedroom (office) where the computer is, or I take over the living room, where the piano is. He is patient with this and all the cables. He leaves. He hides quietly in another room. He doesn't bitch about any of this or the money I spend (well, I make my own so it's cool), or the band practices we used to have at my house, or the hours I now spend away at rehearsals, or the late-nght hours supporting me at gigs. He happily works the door or plays roadie, even for out-of-area shows when he can. And he's never ONCE asked me to give up this musical pursuit.

Oh, and how does it relate to mixing or mastering? Well now, no one exists in a vacuum ... we all need support of loved ones, especially for something like recording if we need to do it at our house or otherwise need to spend the $$ we share with a life partner on recording gear/facilities.
 
Angela, I love you sweetie, you're wondeful!

I've been playing off and on for years, but I have so little time to put into it that most people who have been playing for just a few years are far beyond my ability. Since I don't play with a band, recording is my way of keeping my interest level up. Despite a lack of time and lack of serious ability she lets me buy what I need to (within reason) to help with this recording thing I've got going. She was an amazing clarinetist when she was younger and over the years she has lost more real musical ability than I'll ever have, so at least she believes music is a worthwhile interest.

Two years ago she and our son let me pick out my first bass for Father's Day. She doesn't complain too much when I disappear into the basement for a few hours after she goes to sleep. She lets me have the house for the day every once in a while when I finally get together with my friend that I'm recording with right now. She encouraged me to buy my own computer so I can keep everything connected and ready to record so Ican maximize my recording time (rather than moving everything up to the dining room where our family PC is and back down to the basement when I'm done recording). She lets me get online and spend too much time reading and posting here instead of spending more time with her.

And on top of that she still puts up with my many other faults too. She's the best.
 
my wife is an accountant who has receipts for every piece of gear i've bought since we started living together 7 years ago.

she helped me put up some new acoustic panelling this weekend.

but it goes even farther than that.

her sister is my photographer (its her actual profession) and she's been taking pictures while i put my latest project "Ras Lidj & IzReal" together.

her father is an attorney, so i get free legal advice.

and now that i've got the tascam 428 (which she thinks has the ruggedness of something you'd by a child at walmart), i can sit in bed with her and do rough mixes and get my dynamics processing stuff for individual tracks headed in the right direction.

the best part of all is that she doesn't get TOO jealous whenever i bring over some fine, phat bodied singer to do background tracks.

all i gotta do is take her to church on sunday mornings. she's even willing to go to the early service.
 
My wife takes care of me, our house and our money. I'm currently unemployed and she has supported me getting a new kit and letting me spend this off time on music (for now). It's an amazing, wonderful thing and I couldn't be more grateful. Thanks Kristin! :D
 
As long as he gets food my cat does not mind :) He's deaf.

Edit: I'm talking about the four legged variety.
 
She's the Hip to my Hop
The perfect verse to my chorus
The R to my B
The chord to her progression

She met me doing music, stood by me in trials and tribulations, to upstarting my own business, she's seen some of the most painful of days I've ever had, untrustworthy people, frustrated by financial problems, loud cursing, hitting walls, configuring computers (YOU GUYS KNOW)

and still she married me and gave birth to a wonderful son,
(SCRATCHING MY CHIN----damn)

She's been inspiration, she is my backbone, she is success,
all that I've achieved is because of her BELIEVING IN ME

LOVE YOU BABY my CIL
 
You guys got issues... Turn off your computers and go tell THEM. You guys are makin me queezy.:p
 
My mommy and daddy

Just wanted to say thanks to my mommyand daddy. Being only 15 when i started recording professionally (for money) they have had to spend alot of time wondering if they still had a son or not. And through all of it, my mom has been fully supportive of me starting the business and has helped me alot financually. My dad let me build a 2 room soundproofed studio in the basement of his business building where i run my own recording business, while also helping me with construction of it.

Thanks a ton for all the support and love.

danny
 
My wife and I work together so it's a good thing that I lock my self in a room a couple times a week:D She has also put up with me buying all kinds of equipment for years, but I did it way before I met her and she knows it so it has been no suprise to her.


Love her lots:)

PS the only thing that has ever bugged her (still does) is when I exposed my self while playing at a huge party:)


F.S.
 
Yeah, my wife rules too. She has always been supportive, and actually is often inspriational and enthusiastic -- she isn't a musician but is a huge music fan, and has great taste. She leaves me alone to play/record in our 1 bdrm apt. and is ok with most of the purchases (as long as i keep them out of the way!).

Most recently she was really supportive of me taking vacation and spending some time alone in a rented house in the country, just free to record, write, etc. Just got back and it was fantastic. Nothing to do but work on music, and take the occasional walk. Everyone thought it was "weird" that i would go away without her, but she understands so well. Again, she rules.
 
Gotta add my part to the awesome wife stories:

My wife was an incredible musician in college so she appreciates what I do and supports it fully. In over 150+ live shows she hasn't missed one.

She loves photography and is our band photographer as well as picture developer for our promo packs, with the band name and info burned into the bottom of the picture just like a pro. That saved the band so much damn money...

When I came home with a $1200 Tacoma acoustic-electric (got it at a sale for $799) before she even asked how much it cost she asked me to play it. After strumming about 30 seconds she said "Whatever you paid for it, it was worth it." :D

A few months ago I talked with her about setting up a DAW. I figured I would be into it for about $2000. Well, $7000 later my system is set up and works perfectly. About a month ago she walked into the music room, looked around and said "It seems awfully crowded in here now with all your new gear. Would you like to move this all into the master bedroom and we could move the bedroom into this room? That should give you much more space and maybe you could use the bathroom as an iso room for some things."

Now THAT is a woman! ;)
 
1.) She bought me an American Fender Strat in the perfect color (and lines up 40 cans of Guiness for presentation).
2.) She let's the band play in the bassment (also where my home studio is).
3.) She hasn't killed any of the idiots that are in and out of here.

She also has her own artistic projects to work on. I just wish we could time them so we're working at the same time - the dog gets lonely when we're each doing our thing.
 
My wife, unfortunately, does not understand how compelling music is to me. I don't play in bands anymore, so my little room in the garage is all I have. I spend a lot of time out there.
 
I have to kick my wife down some props too.


Thanks a Million Melissa. You ar ethe Best!



I Love You.


Steven
 
My wife gave me the ok to set up my studio in the master bedroom (great acoustics, a walk-in closet as a guitar booth and a bathroom as a vocal booth). She also gave me a beautiful dark red maple Epiphone for Father's Day one year. The big bonus is that she basically leaves me alone. See, both of us are very selfish individuals. We have our own interests and during the weekends, when the kids are at their dad's we don't see much of each other. We practically live at opposite ends of the house with the kitchen in the middle. The only time we talk is when I come out of the studio to give my ears a rest. The words "you never spend any time with me" are never spoken. Not only that, 90% of the time we don't even sleep in the same bed. What woman would allow you to sleep anywhere in the house without getting all pissed off that you didn't sleep with her?! Probably does more good for our marriage than not...

I have to make the occasional sacrifice, like when we decided to spend our savings on a custom gaming pc for her (that's what she does when I'm recording, playing Sims or Grand Theft Auto or Alice) and that I can't cut tracks this Saturday until after 1pm (when the cable guy shows up to add the internet connection), but it works out well in the long run. With the gaming pc, we are getting the work done at the same place my DAW will be built. So I'm testing their service by how well the gaming pc performs. Plus, having a cable modem attached to the older computer allows me more opportunity to come here in between sessions. So all those things that benefit her benefit me as well.

It's the best of both worlds. I have the near complete freedom of a single individual with guaranteed companionship right around the corner.

Cy
 
My wife has always supported my obsession. She even "misses the band" when we haven't recorded for a while.

And best of all, she'll even act as if she cares when I tell her to listen to the mix for the 10,000th time to see if she likes how I added a little 12k shelf on the hi-hat.

I love you Lisa!!
 
She has two sisters. Twins. I only met one and she's nuts. The other one is holed up in a house god only knows where. I never met her, and I think my wife wants to keep it that way for my physical protection.

Cy
 
Oh. Doesn't matter, my luck in that department is phenomenal. I have more chance to get a N°1 hit.
 
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