F_cksia, I have the exact same gripe with my vocals. I've just come to terms with the way I sound and have decided to "accept it" and just belt it out any chance I get, regardless of who's watching or listening. I figure, there are famous people getting filthy rich using horrible voices so it's not so bad that I suck.
I cheat though. I will record my vocal tracks five or six times then create a phrase by phrase composite from all the tracks of the best performances from each track. I just have to make sure that I do all the tracks in the same session because I'm not very consistent and sometimes my timbre sounds a little different depending on what day it is for whatever reason.
I don't think my pitch and my ear is *that* bad though: I sometimes select different notes to sing on different takes without realizing until later that I've accidentally created some cool harmonies.
But yeah, singing in key is a bitch. I wish I had started trying to sing years ago, maybe I'd be a lot better now. Oh well, hopefully one day I'll look back and laugh at how I
used to suck. Or, at least care less that I still do.
I stumbled upon this just last night. I finally realized that the tracks were too loud in my headphones and I couldn't actually hear myself. After turning down and completely exposing one ear I was actually able to do a single take on a track with no "composite" cheating!
Btw, how many others here do the composite stuff? Just curious.