I usaully use either EV 408e's, or the little OKtava mk012's on toms. Sometimes both and blend the two together. If the drummer has REALLY good technique and control I will even use AKG414's. AS far as mixing, if I want huge chunky toms I will gate, comp (just a touch), EQ, and occasionally even use an aural exciter or mutiband comp, but it really has to be on the right stuff. First and most important though, get new heads on the kit and get it tuned well!
Boingo, I have EV 408's, senn 604's, senn 421's, beta 56's, 98's, and even PG's. All of which seem perfectly usable to me. Of those, my EV's and the beta 98's are my favorite. However, if you get a chance, try out some of the little oktava's on toms. You might realize how much beef those 98's have been missing. It has to be the right drummer (setup) though to contain the bleed. I only said to try the Oktava's (rather than some other sd condensor) because they are so cheap. I bought 12 of em when the GC monster had them on sale for $50 each. I figured that way if one broke I could just throw it away rather than have to get an RA number, ship it back, pay for it etc...