Some really great top bands for the area have been to me and I have half expected a bunch of egomaniacs telling me what to do and how to do it,then most times that was not the case,they just let me do my thing and walk away happy.Other times I've had band that were at best fair and they are "advising" me to compress the bass gtr more or what we do or dont need mic'd on the drums! Pretty much these days I tell bands if you are hiring me to do a job, let me do it, or we dont work together.
Amen to that last sentence!
I can second your experiences with experience (and I'm glad for a change to hear someone else say this, and that it's not just my own little island of exposure.) For me, I find that the better or more experienced the musicians, the more they leave me to do my job and the more they listen when I ask for something or understand when I need to make mic adjustments, etc. There seem to be two things happening;
First they kind of expect that I know what I'm doing at least as much as they do, and they wouldn't tell me what to do any more than they would want me to tell them how to play their instrument. Of course, they'll recognize hacks pretty quickly, too; that kind of respect comes only if I do my job as well as they do theirs (imagine the difference between Andy Taylor and Barney Pfife running the production).
The other factor, at least IME, is kind of a shame, actually, but it does keep the musicians out of the way, and that is it seems the better or more experienced the musician, the less interested they are in the recording process - or indeed, to a degree, in sound in general. They are interested in creating and in playing, and many of them view recording as a necessary evil, at best. It kinda sucks; the best musicians I know aren't any more interested in recording than they are in filling out their tax returns, they just want to play.
The exception is if you hire them as session cats; for forty silver pieces they will be at the studio on time and properly prepared to lay down some great tracks very cooperatively with the engineer/producer, but usually only as an income supplement, and not as something they necessarily enjoy doing full time.
G.