Hi, I'm 40 and have been in bands since I was 16. Played full time for almost 15 years(3 to 5 nights a week.) We traveled quite a bit to keep our schedule full. This gave us the chance to see a lot of other bands(Sharing stages or checking out someones last set because they played later)....and see what we liked and disliked about them.
With that said...here's my list of do's and don'ts....
1 HAVE A SET LIST AND STICK TO IT! None of this "what do you wanna play?"..."I don't want to do that next"... "My throats not warmed up yet"
2 DEAD AIR SUCKS! BE PREPARED- come hell or highwater, to rattle off 3-5 songs in a row. It won't kill you to not stop and take a sip of your drink,check tuning(you're really the only one who cares that one string is a hair out of tune.), Or adjust your cymbal stand, seat, amp settings, etc., etc.
If their dancing ,don't stop!!! Your 3 songs before saying something just turned into 6.
3 As mentioned above, keep the useless banter between members to a minimum. Have someone,(a front man if necessary,) do the talking.
4 VARIETY- Unless you're doing a specific genre thing...Death metal, blues, etc..people usually don't want to hear the same thing all night. NOR do they want to hear you do the same material every time they see you, month after month, and sadly for some bands, year after year.
5 OK, INTERESTING THINGS ON STAGE??? You would be surprised. When people are having a good time, anything goes....We would do all sorts of stupid stuff and people would tell us how much fun it was to come and see us. Get some cheap giveaway stuff(keychains, t shirts,frisbees,cd's etc.)
and have contests...shortest skirt, best dancer, best dirty dancer, trivia questions. You'd be surprised at what people will do for a stupid keychain or t- shirt. One time, as a gag, we painted a canned ham camoflouge green and proclaimed it as an authentic M*A*S*H* ham. We had fun with it all night, gave it away with a trivia question. People loved it. Although it's kind of korny, throw a giant balloon out over the dance floor when it's packed. People love knockin' it around while they're dancing.
6 Tape yourselves occasionally to see how your doing with dead air, smiling and reacting to the crowd, You'll be surprised at what you notice you can do better with little or no effort. For example..I noticed that I had a habit of looking at my guitar when I didn't need to. Why stare at your guitar when you could play that passage blindfolded....make eye contact and smile or if your shy, even pick a spot at the back of the room...no one will know that your not looking at anyone in particular.
7 Of course, remember to have fun!!! That's why your doing this in the first place!!!! Don't stress over stupid, trivial things like, "it sounds like shit in this room" If you have fun... your audience will too!!!