If there is a variance that cannot be resolved convincingly it probably best to cut your losses and find like minded individuals to work with.
Fuck covers. Stand your ground, do what you want to do, and fire people until you find the right people.
find members that support your direction.
You should do originals................but you really could use either some cooperation or someone to make the decisions. Otherwise you'll all just wander around at practice getting nothing done.
I nearly always advocate doing originals. I'm just not a cover kind of geezer. Personally, I've spent too long getting to that point of learning to play, getting up the courage to play and write and putting too much into learning how to record and mix to be doing covers.
One of the reasons I won't watch those talent shows is because they rarely allow originals and I'm not interested in another version of a song I already like or, for that matter, hate !
Like minded individuals on a long term basis can be hard to come by so you may have to co~opt people that you're not going to be playing with in 7 years. But they can help you get to where you're going
at that time.
Communicate. Seems simple and obvious, but one of the hardest things to get right......
You're already talking about compromise and this isn't such a bad idea, especially as you work out the identity of your band.
big divides in what each member wants.
Divides need not rip a band apart but more often than not, they do. I've long felt that certain bands that had more than one direction made for some great music and the members often could not see that their very diversity is what made them so attractive in the first place. Ego unchecked will run rampant. But compromise and communication are important and they don't contradict the notion of having a leader or one at whom the buck stops.
If you consider yourself the leader or chief songwriter it might serve you well to identify another member with an original song to work on. This can help take the perceived 'ego' threat away from you and allow you to show your strength in song writing and, most importantly, teamwork.
I see no reason why you can't pursue different ways of writing songs. Zillions of bands have done and continue to do so. There will be some songs that you or whoever wrote it will want
just so, while others are looser and require sharp contributions from all around. Then there will be those that are written together, which can be a good gelling experience, a bit like jamming. There are plenty of ways of coming up with songs that allow you to be precious about the song or not precious, as the case may be.
I've been the one to pursue everyone for the band, even putting the post on craigslist, so in some ways I feel as if I'm the leader. It might sound arrogant, but hey I've done the work to put this together and know where I want to go. So now it's time to take charge...
I'm currently reading an excellent book called "Light and shade" 'about' Jimmy Page. Much of it takes the form of interviews with him. It's fascinating reading what he has to say about the early days of Led Zeppelin. Though he definitely put a
band together, it was
his band, pursuing
his vision with
his ideas and he decided to produce it. He says
he had the final say on decisions in the studio,
he worked with the engineers,
he directed mic placement on guitar amps and drums,
he knew what he wanted. When Glyn Johns as engineer on their first LP got shirty and refused to do something, Page "made sure" it got done and when Johns wanted a production credit, Page said "not a chance in hell !". It wouldn't have been out of place to have called the band the Jimmy Page experience {or experiment}.
It's a little more difficult when a band has started as a democracy and then a member or members start taking the lead. It's happened with many {Beatles, Police, Pink Floyd, The Wailers, Mott the hoople, the Supremes, the Who to name but a few} and they nearly all cracked at the seams.