Trif,
> how big the sound stage should be in vertical direction? <
This is entirely a function of avoiding early reflections in the listening room. When all early reflections are avoided, the height and width are both maximum. As an example, in my home theater the center channel speaker is just below the screen, and all the first reflection points are treated with absorption. If I sit in the correct position, vertical imaging is very good and I can't tell that the sound is coming from below the picture. But if I move back to behind the couch, out of the reflection-free zone, then I can hear that the sound is coming from the speaker (which destroys the illusion).
--Ethan