Maybe your tact was off. I'm not sure, but I do know that you are right.
We are in the digital age, and drummers who refuse to use a click track are not worth it. They're close-minded about it. It's one thing to not want to use a click track after you've mastered using one, but to refuse to learn is a weakness.
In the studio a click track is essential because then you'll know that the tempo is consistent.
Granted, there are thousands of hits that you and I love that were recorded without clicktracks, but now-a-days, real studio drummers can use them, even if they choose not to.
The fact that your drummer is ticked off (no pun intended) means he feels threatened.
Some drummers don't lead the band. That's a huge problem. They actually are listening to the other band members to set the pace. A drummer should have no mercy for others. He plays and plays, and the others need to keep up.