What type of ride cymbal is suitable for recording metal? A thicker cymbal with a strong ping is the way to go obviously. I tend to prefer the paiste rides, however something like the Paiste rude power ride seems maybe too loud? Post your suggestions!
If you're having problems balancing the volumes of the kit, there are a few things to try:
1) technique - a lot of drummers hit every piece on the kit with the same force. This can end up with cymbals overwhelming the kick and snare pretty easily
2) quiet version of your cymbal - they make low volume cymbals. Zildjain and Sabian have lines of them. Not sure what Paiste offers, but you might be able to find something that has the same tone at a lower volume