Neighbours can hear me sing..

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I just started learning to sing last month. I do have potential and I think I could be brilliant if I had confidence and people never doubted me. My sister, my mum and my dad say I can't sing. But.. They have never heard me, but when I do attemp to sing when they are in the house, I pussy out. I wait till they go out to work or go somewhere and then I sing. BUT my neighbour can hear me. I mean.. I can hear my neighbour fart, sneeze and talk! The walls are really thin. I don't know how I am going to be able to do this. Everytime I attemp it, I shit out of it and end up just talking my way through the song. Some songs it sounds as if I am humming. Yeah I know.. Sounds bad.

I have never been known as a singer. That's why my FAMILY tell me I can't sing.
They always say to me "you have to be born with a singing voice" I keep telling them that you don't. I have had the house to myself and my neighbours were out and I sang and it was pretty good. But when people are around me.. I seem too panic and sing at a level where no one can hear me, which is too quiet (below talking level)
 
Ok so you need somewhere quiet and private to practice. Do you drive? You could park up somewhere and practice. Or even sit in parents car on the path ! Keep at it.
 
You have to practice singing in front of people sometime. Is that a dog I see in your picture? Practice in front of your dog. Your neighbor can't even see you man! I would be more concerned that he would get mad than being embarrassed.
 
Sing while taking a shower. And I'm not joking.
 
seancfc said:
I could be brilliant if I had confidence and people never doubted me. . . when people are around me I seem too panic. . .
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Shy introverts rarely become singers or frontmen. . . David Lee Roth and Steven Tyler are not exactly shy types of people. . .If you have stage fright at home (home fright?) you've got a lot to overcome. . But it CAN be overcome. . . Even if you are terrible you could still work around that and find a style that works for you like Knofler or Springsteen or other more contemporary examples that I hear but can't name. . . But you won't ever be brilliant until you believe in yourself enough to sing with confidence. Confidence is the large part of BEING a singer. . . There is nowhere to hide, and no equipment to blame, so sing, sing SING ! and keep on singing !!!
 
That thing about singers having to be born with a singing voice is probably one of the stupidest (and most established) things i´ve ever heard.

I have a terrible speaking voice, and so it took me a loong time to find a singing voice that it sounds good. But i found it. Everything in these things is about two things: The will to work, and the technique you get with that will.

I mean, is like telling a guitarist that he cant play because he has small fingers.

Regarding your problem, one of the last things to go away in the process of learning how to sing is the shyness. So keep working, keep singing whenever you can. Dont worry yourself too much about singing in front of people right now, you just started. As you grow technically, you will also grow confident in your abilities. This is the way to overcome shyness.
 
Singers aren't necessarily born great, but what they usually do have in natural abundance is self confidence and a certain cockyness/swagger about their vocals

It takes a lot to put yourself out there, as you are discovering. When you play an instrument you can, psychologically, put that instrument between you and the audience to some degree as some kind of mental/emotional defense. When you sing, it's just you, warts an all with nothing to hide behind (physically or psychologically)

You have to get past the embarrassment/nervousness/fear if you want to be a singer and no matter how many lessons you have you will not be a "singer" until you can get out there and do it. In many ways getting out there early is better because once it's done you can build from there. The longer you wait the harder it gets.

so start singing around the house, let your friends, family and neighbors hear you in all your untrained glory, and hear you as you continue to get better. It's not much easier to put recorded material out there for the world to hear and criticize, even though you can't necessarily see or directly interact with those listeners. You still need the confidence and belief in yourself to put it out there and let people say what they will.

If you can't do that you will never be a "singer" no matter how well you can put notes together with your voice. If you don't believe it yourself, no one else will either

I have never been known as a singer. That's why my FAMILY tell me I can't sing.
They always say to me "you have to be born with a singing voice" I keep telling them that you don't. I have had the house to myself and my neighbours were out and I sang and it was pretty good. But when people are around me.. I seem too panic and sing at a level where no one can hear me, which is too quiet (below talking level)
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So at some level you believe your family which is why you can only sing when no one is around. If you knew at the very core of your being that you are a singer it wouldn't matter who was around or where you were, you'd sing and not worry about how it sounds and what others think.

I know a guy with a terrible stutter, so shy that he can barely hold a conversation unless he knows you really well, but he sings on stage and belts out amazing songs...it's almost unbelievable that it's the same guy, but he knows inside that he is a singer no matter what
 
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Luckis said:
That thing about singers having to be born with a singing voice is probably one of the stupidest (and most established) things i´ve ever heard.

I have a terrible speaking voice, and so it took me a loong time to find a singing voice that it sounds good. But i found it. Everything in these things is about two things: The will to work, and the technique you get with that will.

I mean, is like telling a guitarist that he cant play because he has small fingers.

Regarding your problem, one of the last things to go away in the process of learning how to sing is the shyness. So keep working, keep singing whenever you can. Dont worry yourself too much about singing in front of people right now, you just started. As you grow technically, you will also grow confident in your abilities. This is the way to overcome shyness.
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Thanks :) I think that thing about you have to be born with singing voice is stupid too. Its so stupid!
 
Bristol Posse said:
Singers aren't necessarily born great, but what they usually do have in natural abundance is self confidence and a certain cockyness/swagger about their vocals

It takes a lot to put yourself out there, as you are discovering. When you play an instrument you can, psychologically, put that instrument between you and the audience to some degree as some kind of mental/emotional defense. When you sing, it's just you, warts an all with nothing to hide behind (physically or psychologically)

You have to get past the embarrassment/nervousness/fear if you want to be a singer and no matter how many lessons you have you will not be a "singer" until you can get out there and do it. In many ways getting out there early is better because once it's done you can build from there. The longer you wait the harder it gets.

so start singing around the house, let your friends, family and neighbors hear you in all your untrained glory, and hear you as you continue to get better. It's not much easier to put recorded material out there for the world to hear and criticize, even though you can't necessarily see or directly interact with those listeners. You still need the confidence and belief in yourself to put it out there and let people say what they will.

If you can't do that you will never be a "singer" no matter how well you can put notes together with your voice. If you don't believe it yourself, no one else will either


So at some level you believe your family which is why you can only sing when no one is around. If you knew at the very core of your being that you are a singer it wouldn't matter who was around or where you were, you'd sing and not worry about how it sounds and what others think.

I know a guy with a terrible stutter, so shy that he can barely hold a conversation unless he knows you really well, but he sings on stage and belts out amazing songs...it's almost unbelievable that it's the same guy, but he knows inside that he is a singer no matter what
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Okay. Thanks :)
 
I can't sing in front of people to this day "with my eyes open?" I can sing in front of 10, or 10,000,000 with them closed. And I'm a pretty good singer? It's funny how our psyche plays with us when we sing... I say, "LET IT RIP!"
 
I couldn't sing in front of people for a very long time. Like you, my family and friends never considered me a "singer," so it was difficult at first (mostly in my head, they were all very supportive when I started playing music).

It took time, but I slowly got over it by going to open mics regularly (and really sucking at first...for a long time). I'm definitely not a "good" singer, but at least I'm not shy anymore!
 
I used to get nervous about singing in front of people too. The way I got over most of my fear was to start playing in front of my friends. If it doesn't sound good to you, it probably won't sound great to them either, so practice what you play before you play. Once you're confident about being able to play the song, you won't be so nervous about what they think. :D good luck!
 
wtfuhz said:
I used to get nervous about singing in front of people too. The way I got over most of my fear was to start playing in front of my friends. If it doesn't sound good to you, it probably won't sound great to them either, so practice what you play before you play. Once you're confident about being able to play the song, you won't be so nervous about what they think. :D good luck!
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^^^^ This ^^^^
 
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