Those woman are hard to find... Been looking everywhere...
The way I got into it (I'm just starting out really): I started as a roadie with a band, assisting the PA dudes cuase they mostly fucked up, just saying more punch in the bass, more guitars, more... After asking alot of questions and being nice, I got enough experience to just step up and say, "hello, I'm the bands soundguy, which channel is what, I like a delay on vocals, set it up at 300ms for start, any gates and comps allready connected, what's the talkback? STEVE, TURN DOWN THAT AMP!!! I'm Roel, nice to meet you..."
I've mixed live shows about once a month for 2 years now, bought
a VS1880 standalone recorder and a few mics, recorded some demo's along the way, allready have alot of live-experience by playing in bands.
I have a daytime job and know alot of bands but have little time, so I choose which ones I want to work with, and keep the ones that are good or pay... Now, one of those bands I like to work with is recording a cd. They took me in as help-tech, and the studio owner gave me more control then I could ever hope for!
So, my advice, get together with interesting local bands, get live mixing experience, follow some small courses to learn the basics, get more live experience, go along with any guys that go to a studio and learn.
And make the phonecall. Those engineers are all freaks, and are more than happy to talk tech-talk to somebody that doesn't just pretend to be interested and really tries to get what he says.