The problem here is that the polarity you choose will determine how the speaker reacts - and that's what counts. Consider this:
You're in the audience and the drummer hits the kick drum. The initial pulse (the leading edge transient) is outgoing from the drum. Now, you interpose your recording chain in such a way that the listener's speakers push out in the same manner. That should maintain the illusion of the original acoustical signal.
The question remains this: Does it matter which way the speaker moves first?
Can you hear a difference? Should a positive voltage on the plus terminal of the speaker system cause the speaker to move out? The older JBL speakers were wired to move in, not out when a positive voltage appeared on the plus terminal. There was no industry standard.
If you consider that the kick drum's initial attack should create a positive pressure on your ears, than the pulse should be positive going (up) on your monitor.
But reversing the polarity of the kick does what? It simply simulates what the drummer is hearing from behind the drum. Is that wrong? I don't think the drummer would think so.
In many tests, people didn't hear any difference in the music, regardless of which way the polarity of the speakers was set up. Try it yourself. Listen to a song, then reverse the polarity of both speakers and listen again. I doubt you'll hear much difference.
What you all are really discussing is whether the music blows or sucks.
I submit that a lot of the music these days does both.