Hi there,
You're talking about making your mix translate well to other systems, right?
For me the key is to reference similar commercial material.
If you sound like bon jovi, line up a bon jovi track in your daw and compare it to yours step by step.
Obviously there'll be a massive volume difference during mix stages, so turn the commercial track down in your daw to compensate.
Listen for the crucial elements. Kick, bass, cymbals, vocals...This will give you guidelines for these extremes or focal points
Of course an ideal listening environment and monitoring chain is the key, but not always accessible.
Reputable quality studio monitors well positioned within a good or well treated environment is the way forward.
Most of us can't afford that; If that's the case just get decent full range speakers, stay close to them, and reference commercial tracks at every stage.
If you can get a mix to be pretty damn close and let a mastering engineer sort out the final balance, you're gonna do OK.