TaoManna Don
man of [quite a]few words
Do we fall in love too soon?
No, this post isn’t a new song for you to critique. But it is about songs – your songs. If you are posting here, you are one of two kinds of people: a new songwriter seeking feedback or a seasoned songwriter who wants to help the new guys. If you are the latter (as I am) then you probably share my frustration on this subject – most new songwriters ignore all advice, good or bad.
When you post your lyric and ask for feedback, what do you really want to hear? Do you want an honest critique with helpful advice on how you might improve your song? Or do you just want to hear how much we like what you have done? You can get all the flattering praise you need from family and friends. Do yourself a favor and open yourself up to the fact that there are several good songwriters here who want to help; but they can’t if you will not let them.
Your new song is like a newborn baby for you. It’s your creation. You worked hard on it. It’s special. How could everyone not love it as much as you do? The answer to my original question is YES. We fall in love too soon with our songs. We justify and defend what we have done. We sometimes are offended, even infuriated, when someone suggests it is not perfect. We say a polite “thank you”, try to read as much praise into the adviser’s advice as possible, and then ignore the actual advice.
Forty years ago I wrote my first song. It was pretty bad. Over the years I have received terrible, confusing, and (often) very good advice. Some of that advice I paid for. Most of it, I ignored (even when I paid for it). Eventually, I realized I need help and I started paying attention. I don’t make my living writing songs but I have learned a lot over the years. I can recognize a good lyric. I can usually tell why a lyric works and why it doesn’t. Every now and then I will see a lyric with promise on a forum like this. I try to help. Others, some with much more talent than I have, will also offer advice. Unfortunately, in every case, the songwriter has already fallen in love with his song and really just wants us to tell him how much we love it too.
For me, songwriting is a joy-filled thing. Few other activities can make me feel as great as seeing a good song come together. If you feel as I do, the most important thing is to keep writing. The only other issue is the speed at which we improve our songwriting skills. We will improve our skills much faster if we fall in love much slower.
Keep writing,
Don
No, this post isn’t a new song for you to critique. But it is about songs – your songs. If you are posting here, you are one of two kinds of people: a new songwriter seeking feedback or a seasoned songwriter who wants to help the new guys. If you are the latter (as I am) then you probably share my frustration on this subject – most new songwriters ignore all advice, good or bad.
When you post your lyric and ask for feedback, what do you really want to hear? Do you want an honest critique with helpful advice on how you might improve your song? Or do you just want to hear how much we like what you have done? You can get all the flattering praise you need from family and friends. Do yourself a favor and open yourself up to the fact that there are several good songwriters here who want to help; but they can’t if you will not let them.
Your new song is like a newborn baby for you. It’s your creation. You worked hard on it. It’s special. How could everyone not love it as much as you do? The answer to my original question is YES. We fall in love too soon with our songs. We justify and defend what we have done. We sometimes are offended, even infuriated, when someone suggests it is not perfect. We say a polite “thank you”, try to read as much praise into the adviser’s advice as possible, and then ignore the actual advice.
Forty years ago I wrote my first song. It was pretty bad. Over the years I have received terrible, confusing, and (often) very good advice. Some of that advice I paid for. Most of it, I ignored (even when I paid for it). Eventually, I realized I need help and I started paying attention. I don’t make my living writing songs but I have learned a lot over the years. I can recognize a good lyric. I can usually tell why a lyric works and why it doesn’t. Every now and then I will see a lyric with promise on a forum like this. I try to help. Others, some with much more talent than I have, will also offer advice. Unfortunately, in every case, the songwriter has already fallen in love with his song and really just wants us to tell him how much we love it too.
For me, songwriting is a joy-filled thing. Few other activities can make me feel as great as seeing a good song come together. If you feel as I do, the most important thing is to keep writing. The only other issue is the speed at which we improve our songwriting skills. We will improve our skills much faster if we fall in love much slower.
Keep writing,
Don