If all else fails i've heard another good way to help this problem is by moving the cymbals further from the source, this would be better when using the recorderman method as the OH mics are relatively low, so you could move the cymbals up a bit. This may have the opposite effect if the cymbals are moved in another direction as the drummer may feel uncomfortable & really swing to ensure he makes contact. The best therapy is to wait until your drummer aquires the skills needed to strike each of the drum's instruments with the correct force. This may take time however & actually may never happen, some drummers actually refuse to not strike the shit out of things. I've seen plenty examples when reading through this forum when I was looking for drumming advice myself. If your drummer is a meat-head don't expect too much .