kidkage
Bored of Canada
This might be a little too sappy. But what can I say. I'm at the late night can't sleep thinking phase.
My sister (21) found her first relationship last summer.
It all started when she got her job. Which is where he came in with his fuck ass twin brother and hit on her.(apparently they were schoolgirl crushes of hers). It's like the job gave her some sense of independence and "my shit doesnt stink"
And it has completely ruined her. I believe this is what's labeled as a "destructive" relationship.
Because of it she's cut out her old friends, distanced herself from her family, dropped out of college, moved out at one point (moved back 2 months later).
Now, I can't say whether or not there's physical abuse. I don't think there is. But I'm pretty sure that there is "emotional abuse" if there's such a thing.
Me, her and my parents were and incredibly close family. She's completely wrecked it. She's hell bent on being "independent". She once made a comment on facebook along the lines of "this puppet has cut her strings". I call BS. She added strings. She had everything at her fingertips really- a loving family, nothing to tie her down, family business to call her own. Now she's a slave to her friends that are bumming off her, her asshole boss, her bum boyfriend.
She obviously sees nothing wrong with him, but me and my parents, and cousins, and friends, etc. see something wrong with him. One of those things you can't quite put your finger on but you know it's there.
He just seems like a controlling bum idiot predator.
For starters- the guy is 10 years older than her, has a child (not from a marriage), has no career... he's a total bum.
He tried to have a one night stand with my cousin (18) and in the process of pursuing her told her that he has no feelings for my sister and hopes she has none for him. Yet he's dating her. Getting his bills paid by her. Eating off her. Making her spend every hour of the day texting him or being at his house...
I know you all don't care for details sorry
She's surrounded herself with bad people (co workers, etc.) that are filling her head with shit.
I mean people have told us that her great upbringing will prevail...
anyway, what i want to know is this- Will she snap out of it and come back around? Is it a normal thing?
It's weird that we were best friends and always there for each other. She at times said I felt more like her son than brother. And now I feel like it's deteriorated to that cliche "we used to be real close".
Help me see some light at the end of the tunnel in this.
My sister (21) found her first relationship last summer.
It all started when she got her job. Which is where he came in with his fuck ass twin brother and hit on her.(apparently they were schoolgirl crushes of hers). It's like the job gave her some sense of independence and "my shit doesnt stink"
And it has completely ruined her. I believe this is what's labeled as a "destructive" relationship.
Because of it she's cut out her old friends, distanced herself from her family, dropped out of college, moved out at one point (moved back 2 months later).
Now, I can't say whether or not there's physical abuse. I don't think there is. But I'm pretty sure that there is "emotional abuse" if there's such a thing.
Me, her and my parents were and incredibly close family. She's completely wrecked it. She's hell bent on being "independent". She once made a comment on facebook along the lines of "this puppet has cut her strings". I call BS. She added strings. She had everything at her fingertips really- a loving family, nothing to tie her down, family business to call her own. Now she's a slave to her friends that are bumming off her, her asshole boss, her bum boyfriend.
She obviously sees nothing wrong with him, but me and my parents, and cousins, and friends, etc. see something wrong with him. One of those things you can't quite put your finger on but you know it's there.
He just seems like a controlling bum idiot predator.
For starters- the guy is 10 years older than her, has a child (not from a marriage), has no career... he's a total bum.
He tried to have a one night stand with my cousin (18) and in the process of pursuing her told her that he has no feelings for my sister and hopes she has none for him. Yet he's dating her. Getting his bills paid by her. Eating off her. Making her spend every hour of the day texting him or being at his house...
I know you all don't care for details sorry
She's surrounded herself with bad people (co workers, etc.) that are filling her head with shit.
I mean people have told us that her great upbringing will prevail...
anyway, what i want to know is this- Will she snap out of it and come back around? Is it a normal thing?
It's weird that we were best friends and always there for each other. She at times said I felt more like her son than brother. And now I feel like it's deteriorated to that cliche "we used to be real close".
Help me see some light at the end of the tunnel in this.