I know this is a home recording forum, but doesn't anyone use a recording studio these days?
My logic, when I started out with my early bands we would go into a recording studio to cut demos or albums with guys that knew what they were doing (or we hoped so). While the recording process and mixing process was happening, the members of the band who were recording orientated would talk to the engineer / producer and watch what they were doing and learn about the process. At a later date as we accumulated more gear we tried recording ourselves and using what we had learned along the way.
This also happened with live sound where while on tour supporting bigger acts we would befriend the crew and help with the set up and sit at the console during the main acts performance to see what was going on, this is basically the story of how I got into the whole business. Nowadays everyone thinks you can lock your self up at home and read books ask questions here and become an engineer. Book the band into a studio and have a great learning curve, then later use what you learned to cut some tracks for yourself. Another option is to ring around and see if a studio will let you sit in for some work experience and watch whats going on and what minimum gear you may need to do what you want to do.
Alan.