I have the same problem
I have the same problem...
I ask for advice and then sometimes get defensive when people give their opinion.
I think it's cuz I grew up without any support from my family for my music and art.
I try to keep in mind that opinions are just opinions, and are sometimes provide third party perspectives on aspects of my art that I could not see on my own. The reviewer's self-perspective is valid to the reviewer at the time, just as your artistic perspective is valid at the time of composition of the creation.
I try to stave off this defensivity, cuz if I don't it needlesly gets under my skin when I end up reading a published review of my works from a point of view of disagreement. The stress detracts from the enjoyment in creativity, yet there is this unbreakable bond between art and fear that we must come to awareness of to truly achieve the self awareness and balance to put forth our spirituality through art for public review.
The limelight is a dual edged sword, equal amounts of heaven and hell; praise and criticism.
All this for me, and I never even said I didn't like the piece.
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