Oh, and to the original issue, compression is your friend. These issues can be controlled, and should be before a limiter is added. Honestly, I don't use much compression on drums individually. Though I do use parallel compression on the drum bus. I typically use compression as an effect. Not so much for volume control. That being said, low frequencies will screw up what a compressor is doing, if the low end is hitting it first. This leads more to tone/eq issues. Which also leads to monitoring and room treatment issues. Then the source recording to begin with....
I have spent years trying to fine tune any of this. Each day it becomes more clear what makes things sound good. I am still learning everyday, but I will say that it keeps getting easier to get what was a struggle last month. Each purchase, each failure, each improvement builds up to what some might call experience. I look forward to the day I feel satisfied with everything I do. Problem is, it will never happen. I'm happy with where I am now, and learning more as I go. < I'll look back on that comment two months from now, and say to myself 'how was I happy'? "I just found something new that changes everything". Likely the mics that moresound just loaned me.