I'm with ya
Man, I'm in the process of trying to find out the whole "clicking" kick drum thing, too. It always seems as though nobody knows what I'm talking about. Here are a few things to certainly try:
1) Make sure your bass drum is muffled. There's a pillow in mine. It comes in pretty good contact with both drum heads. That's important.
2)My resonant head (non-beater head) is tightened up pretty tight. I would do that. But that's not what matters. What matters is the batter head. Loosen all of those lugs really loose. Then, tighten them until the wrinkle is just barely gone. Or tighten until you feel a little resistance on all of the lugs. It may seem goofey having it so loose, but it definitely plays a big part.
3) Point you mic at the beater!!!! I've experimented with my kick mic being 3" from the beater all the way to having the mic slightly outside the drum. I like it about in the middle. But no matter what, point it directly at the beater.
4) The most important thing is EQ. (Mind you that the previous steps are just primers for EQing. But, they help out so much.) I've been to so many metal shows. Every time, the kick sounds like crap until the sound guys do some EQing. You have to find out what frequencies suit you best but, there are 2 basic steps to EQing for a good clicky kick. A) Drop the cardboard freq. & B) up the clickness of it. For me, I completely cut out 550hz. Just drop it. And I max out 4000hz. It works quite well for me. For recording, I just use a Timeworks EQ plug-in. It lets you set the freq you want to cut/boost. I just tune one in to 550 and the other in to 4000. Drop one, max the other.
Keep searching for answers about it man. Drop me a line if you find out anything. Hope I helped you out.