All jazz sucks. It's completely indulgent. The purpose is not to connect to the listener. the object is to go out there and pay shit that only you get.
I prefer nearly all music genres to jazz except for classical. Classical sucks too. Except the kind they play in sci fi movies like thus spake therathustra or "mars".
I will also go on record as hating nearly all ballads except the ballad of jed clampett.
Well . . . y'know . . . kinda . . . whatever. By your standards, there is a lot of jazz that is intended to connect to the listener, just not so much since 1960. Although you could argue smooth jazz is intended to connect to the listener, and its sales figures would bear that out. Of course it sucks . . .
With any form of music one must confront the existential question of musicianship. Any musician who places himself on stage (girls obviously excluded, they have better things to do with their time than worrying about this crap), they inherently must have a certain measure of fundamental arrogance: I am going to play, and you are going to respond to what I play. You may participate to the extent that I allow given the form of music I choose and the societal conventions conveyed by that choice. Beyond that, your only choice is not to listen.
So when we construct an artifice of music, it would be something like: "music is an art expressed in an auditority medium that has greater than ordinary aesthetic
and/or social importance." Note the emphasis on and/or: must it have either, both, or primarily one or the other? Can a song with brilliant lyrics trump a rancid performance? Can those lyrics be social/political, or must they concern themselves with ideals of truth, beauty, and love? Must the music itself be concerned with such ideals, or should it merely suit the social topic?
Are lyrics required at all? At some level, every instrumental piece, at least that doesn't come with a backstory, can only aspire to build an artifice of the aesthetic.
Or tear it down. Thus we come to Cage and his contemporaries. Cage would have liked nothing better than to open a giant window in a concert hall and expose the audience to the sound of traffic outside. He prized the random, the changing, and was not impressed with composition, as all any composition could express was the intended cleverness of the composer.
And thus your reaction against more modern forms of jazz. But the criticism of Cage is that the composer cannot abdicate his responsibility to select the sound his audience is to hear. In that, we endorse the specialization of society: a layperson should no more select the individual sounds they hear beyond selecting a composer; as they would not wander into a pharmacy and select a random drug to cure their illness--they would instead select a doctor.
And therein lies the basic struggle within all music--what do we leave to the composer, and what must we keep control for the audience? A devotee of free jazz has made a different choice in that respect than a fans of the blues.