Start here
I got this from an old pro, and it's invaluable information for every drummer.
"If you want to do this for real, you'll need these two books:
1. Progressive Steps to Syncopation by Ted Reed
2. Stick Control (for the snare drummer) by George Lawrence Stone
... AND a metronome (start slowly, 60bpm) AND some patience.
After you've gone through Reed's Syncopation book as written, then go back through the book, but this time play
- the standard jazz swing on the ride cymbal,
- and do the exercises with your other hand on the snare,
while keeping time with you're hihat foot on the upbeat (the "2" if you're counting in 2/4 time).
"Stick Control" is where you get all those tasty fills from, especially once you get in to the five and six-stroke rolls.
Get the mechanics down first, and then you can work on swinging the beats to fit the songs you're playing. There are other great books for be-bop, but you'll really miss out if you don't start here first."
Oh, and he said if you can't use the metronome for all of this, give up the drums and choose another instrument
Good luck , Rez