You could try multiple passes on the vocal take. One or two with the input gain set for her voice being louder, a couple more takes with the input gain set for singing quiet close up right on the mic. She will be way too soft on the soft parts in some takes, and way too loud on the loud parts on other takes.
Ah man, why wasn't this my first answer, i do this
all the time! i fear my part of the "great minds thinking alike" may have let me down
yeah, proper mic technique is important but it does depend on how
vast the difference in dynamics is and how well the room is treated. for example, if it goes from almost whispering to screamo then you'd have to move back from the mic a fair way and this would add some real room sound which may be a problem if the whole room isn't treated (i appreciate that this is a huge exaggeration, but you know what i mean
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the big problem i find, especially with singers who don't have much studio experience, is that if their mic technique isn't very good that there's only so much you can do to coach them without ruffling their feathers and making them feel uncomfortable. if the singer is uncomfortable but singing with perfect mic technique then the balance between loud and quiet may be really good, but the take won't sound as good as the singers performance is subpar.
As with the answers to most things in studio's, the best solution is often a combination of answers. get the singer to practice proper mic technique, if the difference in dynamics is just to large to really control with just good technique alone then try either recording the track in parts (loud part and quiet part) or try two mic's at once. if the mic technique is good but still
some loud overly loud notes, then some subtle compression (low ratio, only -3db to -4db gain reduction at the absolute loudest parts, fast attack, fast release) on the way in will help balance it out