this may not solve the problem but id give it a shot....
i used to lose alot of the attack from my snare when recording. its most likely the mic i am using but i solved my problem by doing two things. one, pulling my snare mic just one or two inches away from the head caught alot more sounds than it did when i had it close. two, i made my overheads a little higher and angled them towards the snare rather than the cymbals i was recording. doing this gave me alot more of what the drummer hears and added alot to the mix. i didnt have problems with reverbs or bleeding other sounds where they shouldnt be, but be careful and try different things with overheads.
this worked for me just fine so id recommend giving it a shot. if not, just keep experimenting.