I agree, your main key is going to be your tuning, and using the right heads. And remember when recording, buy new heads. You know how we're all just amazing by that first couple hours of playing on new heads, sounds so wonderful. Use those couple hours on your recording...
Good tuning. Good room mics/overheads.
I just did a recording, and though the tom sound isn't what you'd want it to be (primarily due to my personal tuning/head choice) a major factor in the tom sound was a mic that i placed really low (at level with, say, the top of the kick drum) about 3-5 feet away.