mrhotapples
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My overall, generalized question is "How do you work within a band when other people have opinions on the direction of a song/arrangement and tone of instruments/etc?"
The other guitarist in my band hardly writes anything, lyrically or musically, but constantly forces his opinion on things and puts down my musicianship and songwriting, backing his opinions up with phrases like "That band would do this, we shouldn't copy them" or "we're not that band" or "that band would do this so we should do it" or "I listen to that band and they do it" or "I go to shows and that's how all the other bands do it, we should too" or "i thought we were a ska band" or some other bit that is pretty much saying "my personal experience tells me that we should do this.
but this is never very specific and is always a reaction to an idea I've already thought out and conceptualized on more than just a level of opinion. I've written PLENTY of stuff I don't like listening to but I can identify as good music, because I write music foremost for other people to listen to!!!
ARHWH.
There are songs that I've written where instead of writing a complimentary part to the music (ie playing melody over chords I intend to sing over), he just plays what I've written yet refuses to play parts I write specifically FOR him to play! HOW DOES THAT MAKE SENSE? Or he'll insist that something (whether it's my song or someone else in the band) needs a part added or needs to somehow change but doesn't write the part or make the change, and then BITCHES ABOUT IT.
The extent of his opinions is criticism that if we do this thing, people will hate it or that it's "stupid". It's like he's TRYING to have an opinion but it's just a way to make his voice heard.
I am a very proficient guitarist, vocalist and songwriter. I've written six movement orchestral pieces in Fruity Loops with VSTIs, I took music theory in high school for two years and constantly study, but I'm also a scene kid and I like to go to shows and dance and fuck shit up and I can not in any way shape or form be categorized as a closed-minded person. I have natural sensibility and ears when it comes to this whole music thing. I'm more qualified to be a producer than a member of a band.
What do I do to fix this besides quitting the band or kicking him out? The times he DOES actually do something constructive are good, and they go hand in hand in making us who we are, but...JEEEEZ.
The other guitarist in my band hardly writes anything, lyrically or musically, but constantly forces his opinion on things and puts down my musicianship and songwriting, backing his opinions up with phrases like "That band would do this, we shouldn't copy them" or "we're not that band" or "that band would do this so we should do it" or "I listen to that band and they do it" or "I go to shows and that's how all the other bands do it, we should too" or "i thought we were a ska band" or some other bit that is pretty much saying "my personal experience tells me that we should do this.
but this is never very specific and is always a reaction to an idea I've already thought out and conceptualized on more than just a level of opinion. I've written PLENTY of stuff I don't like listening to but I can identify as good music, because I write music foremost for other people to listen to!!!
ARHWH.
There are songs that I've written where instead of writing a complimentary part to the music (ie playing melody over chords I intend to sing over), he just plays what I've written yet refuses to play parts I write specifically FOR him to play! HOW DOES THAT MAKE SENSE? Or he'll insist that something (whether it's my song or someone else in the band) needs a part added or needs to somehow change but doesn't write the part or make the change, and then BITCHES ABOUT IT.
The extent of his opinions is criticism that if we do this thing, people will hate it or that it's "stupid". It's like he's TRYING to have an opinion but it's just a way to make his voice heard.
I am a very proficient guitarist, vocalist and songwriter. I've written six movement orchestral pieces in Fruity Loops with VSTIs, I took music theory in high school for two years and constantly study, but I'm also a scene kid and I like to go to shows and dance and fuck shit up and I can not in any way shape or form be categorized as a closed-minded person. I have natural sensibility and ears when it comes to this whole music thing. I'm more qualified to be a producer than a member of a band.
What do I do to fix this besides quitting the band or kicking him out? The times he DOES actually do something constructive are good, and they go hand in hand in making us who we are, but...JEEEEZ.