In the case of the wharfedale monitors its really just a bunch of people who are basically inexperienced and used to listening to hifi speakers and really dont know what a good monitor is.
If it wasn't Christmas, I might take offense to that...
As far as semantics are concerned, I can't believe that
most of the boxes out there are called "monitors." Back in the day, "monitors" were big ol' nasty boxes that were colorful as hell. You got used to them quickly and did your job. They were basically ALL "HiFi" speakers. I recall (Harvey?) ranting on that very subject not long ago...
IMNSHO, Wharfedale has produced one of the better "real world" listening systems out there. Pleasant to listen to, non-abrasive sounding with imaging that's hard to believe from a box that size (or that inexpensive). I'll take "real" over "sterile" about 90% of the time. When everyone out there installs "studio monitors" in their homes and cars and treats the rooms properly, maybe I'll start using "sterile" again.
Admittedly, they're my "B" system here, but they get quite a bit of use. For quite some time, the 8.2's and a sub were all I was using.
It sounds like the problems you're having might be that they're too close... They're really not meant for the nearfield...
But of course, everyone's MMV -
DISCLAIMER: I'm using original, passive Diamond 8.2's in the mid-field in a fairly well-tuned room. I would think that the added mass of the actives would change the tonality of the active "Pro" series and have yet to put them head-to-head. Back when they were in development, I was contacted by Wharfedale to "beta test" the new ones. I had to turn them down - Busy time of year. However, they told me they went through a lot of trouble to make the "Pro" series sound just like the original Diamonds. I know of an awful lot of people that have these things... This is only the second complaint that I know of. ANOTHER DISCLAIMER: I have a tendency to not care for active speakers in general, especially if there is a passive model available. For example, I think the Event 20/20 bas (active) sounds absolutely horrible. However, the 20/20 passive with a nice amp is quite acceptable. Active Yorkies, Mackies, Yamahas... Throw 'em all in a pile with some lighter fluid. When you get into Genelec and ADAM, I get pretty happy, but I'm sure the amplifiers they're using are "a bit" nicer than the former. Again, YMMV, yada, yada...
Geez, that's a helluva disclaimer!