miroslav
Cosmic Cowboy
.... his wife dictating his schedule.
Well...."wife" changes the entire paradigm as opposed to "girlfriend".
She's obviously not seeing much value in your "little project" and if she's going to hold the computer hostage to prevent him from taking part in it if it deviates from hers or their shcedule...that shit is something he needs to work out, 'cuz I doubt he's going to dump a "wife" for the sake of the "little project".
You...the band...need to have a straight-up talk with him and your goals, and then he needs to sort it out with the "wife"...and yeah, don't make such a big deal about if if it's just a "vanity project" and not a serious touring/recording gig where there's money on the line. I mean, there's no need to turn it into a pissing match and have your friend stop being your friend or divorcing his wife over it.