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Although I am in a commited relationship, and a practicing heterosexual, I would throw caution into the wind to chase the excitement and thrill of holding you close. I can't completely say that the transition from hetero to bi would go smoothly but I will say if there was a reason to try, that this would be it. I'll let you know when I'm single.
Thanks, but I um… I’m hetero to a fault. I only like girls. Even prefer as friends… most of my close friends have been the woman-being. Plus I was raised with all sisters (three of them)... no brothers.
This sort of shocking reaction like yours has happened in the past. Weirdest thing from a college professor years ago. I was at the gym working out and we were the only ones there late at night and he said yada, yada kind of out of nowhere… “Wow is that your cologne? You smell nice!” I said it probably was (I used to wear Aramis).
But the phrase, “You smell nice” is not masculine gymnasium talk, so you can imagine my surprise.
I was a bit creeped out. It was like one of those “Need a Moment” Twix bar TV spots, but those commercials hadn’t come out yet, so we had not been instructed in what to do. Back in the day there was a moment of awkward silence instead. We had Twix bars, just no instructions came with the candy as we now have freely available on the TV commercials.
Finally I said, “um… yeah, well I um… hey, how ‘bout them Cubs!” (but I didn’t have any idea what the hell he meant… truth be known, plus I was a Cardinal fan).
Sensing my discomfort, he changed the subject and never said weird stuff like that again and we got along fine.
But I’ve had close male friends of course. You and I could just be friends… go to music stores, hang out and talk… but definitely keep your girl friend.
We could even talk about your GF if you like. I sense she feels neglected.
And if things aren’t working out with your GF, I do have a little sister who is currently single. She’s basically a female version of me… dreamy, romantic, traverses the sky on moonbeams and lightning bolts (literally when we have to get someplace fast). Of course her being my sister she’s also descended from fallen angels through Charlemagne. Not everyone is cool with that. She would have been burned as a witch in Salem in 1692, but I think that makes her that much more interesting.
We have a similar appearance… mostly the eyes ('cept mine are green). She doesn’t have dark curly hair or a nicely trimed beard though… so basically she got the brains and I got the looks, as you can see from the pic.
When I say “Fallen angel” it’s not what a lot of people think. In ancient Hebrew it literally means those who fell from or came from the sky. Not fallen as “Fell from Grace” or something. Probably the worse thing they did was get distracted… tempted by the daughters of Eve and at times forgot about watching over Eden. Who can blame them? And besides, had they not misbehaved I wouldn’t be here.
It still creeps people out though. We used to have problems with this old Hindu gentlemen from India that ran the local 7-11 back in the 80’s. When my little sister and I would go in, he would always look frightned and quickly walk into the back room. He would send out his son to wait on us. So, one night I was in there by myself and the same thing happened.
As I was leaving, I asked the younger guy why the older gentlemean ran away when my sister and I came in. Well, the young fellow apologized, but said his father sees a spirit hovering over us wherever we go and that we both have what he called, “The Evil Eye.” “No shit?” I exclaimed. “No Shit” he answered with a light but charming Indian accent.
I asked him what the spirit looks like. He said it is taller than me but it’s like a shadow, whose feet do not quite reach the ground, and it has a wing covering you and a wing covering your sister. And when you and your sister go to different parts of the store it splits in two, yet stays the same size, and each spirit has two wings like the original.
“Oh” I whispered. “What about the evil eye?” “Father says you have eyes that can see into the soul and he does not want you to know his thoughts.”
So, with that I took my Coca-cola Classic Big Gulp and left. I took a walk. I had a lot to think about.
Anyway, my advice though, whatever you do, stick with girls. The girl is a lovely, unsearchable creation. Her heart is full of wonder and magic. You can never fully know it, but it’s fun trying. You just need to get deeper into her spiritually rather than switch to guys. And spice things up a bit with her. At the very least, whatever you do don’t neglect the back of her legs behind the knee or the inside of her wrist.
Guys (most guys) aren’t nearly as much fun, unless maybe some that have had the good fortune of growing up with lots of sisters. But still guys are too hairy and don’t smell as nice, IMO. Think about it. A girl can have the same knowledge and profession as a guy, but she can paint her toenails and wear cherry lip-gloss while doing it, and it’s perfectly normal to mainstream thinking. We take it for granted, but IMHO it really proves there is a God… someone has put a lot of thought into the creation of the woman-being… it’s no accident.
In my experience, most guys can talk shop and that’s cool, but they will generally give you a blank stare when you want to talk about certain other things in depth, like life, love, God, unicorns, rainbows, and how it all relates to music and the arts in general. I don’t mean to stereotype because there are exceptions and I’m talking about my own kind here.
The girl will look you in the eye and pay attention because she is more relationship oriented and interested in talking about stuff. The girl seems generally more curious, engaging and playful, sort of like a kitten.
Example of Male Blank Stare:
Example of Interested Curious Female
See, with the girl you can play games like who-can-hold-breath-the-longest, chase, hide 'n seek, tickle, footsies, blow bubbles, pinky wrestling, strip poker, strip 52 pick-up, strip... um... tarot, strip checkers, etc. She may perhaps even lose on purpose if she likes you a lot. If this is not happening with your current GF, something is probably wrong.
She may not be “The One.” This can be tricky to figure out. A lot of people give up and settle… worn down from looking for that special someone they’ve seen in their dreams. They give up, thinking it was just a dream, but it’s not. Just when life seems to be winding down sometimes the blue rose blossoms and the impossible becomes possible. Your heart is born anew and you see the world like a child once again. It’s only with this innocent heart that you can really see her.
Suddenly you see…
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=alThGF3m9Yw