bblackwood said:
Sounds like you would be better served by using a mastering house that actually knows how to listen to/please the client.
AMEN!
I tell you, on the occasions that I DO use somebody else to master, usually because they have a superior analog signal chain I want the music to run through, and I sort of trust their ears, at the HUGE freakin' prices these guys charge, when I ask for something, I don't mind them possibly suggesting against it, but they better damn well change it if I make that call.
Truthfully, I have found mastering engineers to be the most snobbish/condescending/know-it-all/elitest group of marginal engineers in the industry! A fucking tracking engineer would NEVER last more than a day with attitudes that some of these ME's display, and trust me, it takes EVERY BIT as much skill to be a competent tracking engineer.
If you are PAYING the guy, and you want something changed because you don't like it, tell them to change it. If they won't, get your material back and move on. If they spend too much of your time arguing whether you should change something you want changed, pack up and go elsewhere. Life is too short, and ME's are too expensive for that kind of crap.
I recently mixed a bands CD. I was very proud of the mixes I did, and made some decisions about a few things based on the fact that certain parts were executed VERY poorly, and didn't want to show that off at all in the mix. The band came back with wanting to turn those parts up. No argument here! And certainly, I can't say "Hey man, I turned you down because you butchered that part of the song!" and still expected them to want to come back. Right or wrong, if the customer asks for it, I indeed should double check to make sure that is what they really want, and possibly in a tactful way suggest why they should leave it alone, but, in the end, they pay me, and my job is to make them happy!
Now, I am also a fan of you trying this out on your own. You can probably get into Wavelabs Essential and Waves Masters Bundle for about what two average mastering sessions cost. If that make financial sense to you, go for it! I have tried all the plugin's for mastering, and I think the Waves product does the best job overall. It STILL isn't as good as some analog offerings, but it will get you there.
Also, if insane loud levels aren't desired, I think you could do okay with a UAD-1 card, and get Precision Limiter and Precision EQ for mastering.
Good luck.