Well I wouldnt go as far as saying you can't play the drums. How are you placing the mic? Try placing the mic facing away from the hi-hat facing towards the floor tom if you arn't already.
May try raising the hats as well?
Hitting a little less hard might work too.
I find that when recording I like the standard set up, but otherwise I have my kit set up as if I have a 2nd bassdrum, and my rack toms centered along with the snare right infront of me. I also play with ahead drum sticks but not on recordings.
I guess my point is in recording you have to make changes to your usually set up and ways sometimes
