All I can say is GOOD LUCK.
Sometimes it can be a real challenge being married to 4 or 5 other people at the same time and trying to make it work. It definitely takes allot of compromise and patience especially when dealing with musicians and their egos but it takes a bit of ego to be able to get up on the stage and really knock it out of the park so it's really a double edge sword.
Have been doing this band thing for 40 years or so and find if one person is designated the director and coordinator (usually me) and not necessarily the dictator things can go allot smoother.It also helps if allot of the songs are your originals and you know the way you would like to hear them but it's also good to give some free reign to the other members and see what happens....you may be surprised.
When working up a new piece, it's nice to record all the different ideas on the spot and play them back to see if you can get a general consensus on what sounds best for the whole group.
I find as I get older this whole thing is allot easier because of my willingness to compromise and the patience and wisdom I've acquired over the years in dealing with people.
Just remember.....If you don't feel it, don't play it and if it's not fun, don't do it.
Music should be all about having fun and not a chore.