Yeah that's what I am noticing. I'm a non-drummer like many here, but I've been trying to teach myself [to program/think like a drummer] by watching guys on youtube and just listening to a lot of music more closely.
So what I notice is very slightly ahead of the beat (ride, in my case) with the kick and slightly behind it with the snare sounds surprisingly cool. The one problem is fills (I have a 16th note snare fill with ghost notes and the end of some bars). Strumming these on the guitar (as 16th note strums) becomes weird because they're played on the snare, but the snare is behind the beat and then the kick comes in early on the following beat, so it's almost like the kick on the bars that follow the snare roll is too early. Would it make sense to move that kick back, or is more appropriate to strum the guitar in 16th notes with the ride, even though the roll is played on the snare?
That's exactly why I tend to quantize the kick on 1. Makes it easier if you want to add fills or rearrange measures. You get a smooth transition. You could get the same feel by moving the ride back a little and the snare back farther, with the advantage that each measure begins right on 1.